Want to get hired? Learn from a princess!
You can learn a lot from other people’s bad examples. Here is an editorial someone tweeted that got my attention:
As a female developer these are some things I want in a company before I decide to join, and once I’m a part of the team.
If you ran a business, what would you care more about, placating the demands of a prospective employee, or maintaining profitability and staying in business in a competitive environment?
If you did placate prospects like this one, do you think it would contribute to your success? When your customers are making a choice regarding which product or service to buy, or deciding whether they even need or not, would they care about, or even have any consciousness of, your company being a place where this young woman wants to work?
I want to see other women
Given that nowhere in the article does she express the least concern for the company’s success or profitability, I assume this is a personal need on her own part.
The first thing most people do before interviewing or even applying for a job is look at the company careers page. If it’s plastered with pictures of white guys in flannel with beards, that’s a red flag.
In the world I live in, company career pages in the USA and Europe feature stock photography, or cherry-picked actual photos, of mostly or nowadays often exclusively other-than-white-men.
If the exec team is all white men who look like they could be my father that’s another one [red flag].
And that’s a red flag for me. Guys, here is some friendly advice from an experienced older man: stay away from women who hate their fathers. The trans-gendered Oedipal complex means exactly what it seems like it should mean. I have never witnessed a case where a man “made it work”; she always divorces him and takes his kids and his money away from him. It’s easy for her because she never had genuinely loving feelings for him. He ends up broke, alone, and depressed. Don’t let that happen to you; find a woman who loves her father.
I don’t give a shit about your “amazing culture”
Everyone has great culture and you’re all best friends, I get it.
It’s important for me to know that these are people I’m going to work well and grow with, and that they want to do those things with me.
Kind of a hostile attitude towards someone offering you money for your time, don’t you think?
Notice that she assumes that her being able to get along with other people depends on them pleasing her instead of her pleasing them. It’s all about her.
These kinds of self-centered attitudes are more noticeable in women than in men, mostly because people tend to be more forgiving of them in women than in men, and because young women are groomed for it with a lot of approval-seeking attention and flattery.
They do occur in men, though, just more discretely. Men don’t usually give away that they would like to be treated like princesses, but then they’re disappointed that they’re not! One thing I am seeing more nowadays, though, is that as the masks come off and people are becoming more and more overtly “narcissistic”, even a lot of young men are showing the same symptoms, though not quite as extreme because they are less likely to get away with it.
Self-centered people are constantly frustrated in life, because they can’t get other people to serve their needs, at least, not long-term. Things often go fine at first, when other people are willing to curry their favor and try to build some goodwill, but after a while, they get tired of giving without getting.
Working relationships are more harmonious when at least one person is willing to consider and respect other people’s needs and feelings, and then they reciprocate.
It’s worth the effort, because it produces synergy.
But you can produce synergy without even all that much goodwill. I have had perfectly functional working relationships even with people who are fairly hostile towards me, as long as we can maintain a truce to pursue mutual benefits. In other words, successful people don’t have to like the people they work with to benefit from the relationship for other reasons.
You see this a lot among the super-rich and the super-powerful. Their relationships tend to be shallow and self-interested. But as long as the relationship is profitable, they’ll continue it without regard to lack of attachment to the other people in it. That’s how they stay rich and powerful.
You can accumulate wealth and influence without being quite so emotionally uninvested in your partners, by mastering your feelings for other people, so that you can pursue whatever working relationships are needed to get the job done, without being needy for other people to please your tastes.
Everyone knows about Imposter Syndrome these days and it’s something I suffer from…I’m incredibly hard on myself…
I have doubts about that assessment. Wikipedia defines Imposter Syndrome as “a concept describing high-achieving individuals who are marked by an inability to internalize their accomplishments and a persistent fear of being exposed as a ‘fraud’.”
If she’s a high-achieving individual, why is she demanding a job instead of offering one? If she knows so much about how to attract and retain highly skilled but undervalued women, why doesn’t she in her own company? A lot of other people have started companies completely from scratch, including through self-financing. What makes her a “high-achieving individual” if she hasn’t accomplished the same?
Ah, the world just doesn’t appreciate her greatness!
Imposter Syndrome is a symptom of a gigantic ego. She needs other people to constantly tell her how wonderful she is, and to make excuses for her failures or better yet, blame someone else.
Presumably the whole point of writing this list of demands is that she’s aware that companies are under pressure to give hiring preferences to “other than white males”, and she’s hoping to take advantage of that fact. Big corporations that have plenty of reserves can afford to do that—for a while—to make the government happy. The accumulation of dead-weight is what eventually does them in, regardless of theories of “efficiencies of scale”.
But what about small businesses operating on a shoe-string? They can’t afford any dead-weight; they need staff to whom they can apply the thumb-screws to perform profitably. Those are the ones whom you should be making an offer to solve their laundry-list of problems they want solved.
Let me show you how. Keep reading my blog.